Do you remember where you were last when you looked at yourself and thought- damn, I look good today.
But then, after only a moment, did your shoulders droop as you let you a sigh? Something in your head reminded you of all the OTHER things you should be doing rather than giving yourself a little love. I shouldn’t be focused on this, I need to make breakfast for my kids you told yourself. Guilt by proxy of motherhood, hunny.
This is the experience that every mom needs
Self-identity is paramount to our human experience and personality, and I believe this is the experience that every mom needs.
We grow and develop, learn, fail, win, succeed, and some of us transition into motherhood. This new title of “mom” can be all consuming. Makes you feel like it is the only identity that your mind, body, and spirit can identify.
At first, this is a new feeling. As time goes by though, you almost can forget what it was to feel sexy or well rested. Again, this doesn’t happen with every Mama. But most do, and the struggle is real.
Last month I asked one of my best girlfriends who had recently stopped breastfeeding how she felt now, she looked me dead in the face and with a sigh of relief said, ‘well, it’s nice to finally have my body back.‘
One of the most trying experiences a woman can have is being a mother, but it is also one of the most beautiful.
The transition from who we used to be to now, giving birth and raising little kiddos, almost swaps one life out for another. What do we long for most as mothers? Maybe some of a reminder of the old self?
I love this quote from fellow mom and comedy queen, Amy Poehler.
“There is an unspoken pact that women are supposed to follow. I am supposed to act like I constantly feel guilty about being away from my kids. (I don’t. I love my job.)
Mothers who stay at home are supposed to pretend they are bored and wish they were doing more corporate things. (They don’t. They love their job.)“
That being said, if we can let go of guilt, we can lend ourselves to new experiences and pleasures… (Hear that Mamas? Let go of that heavy guilt. It’s a bitch!)
If I’m not too far off, I’d say you’re probably feeling guilty just reading this right now, aren’t you!? Well, babe let me stop you right there. You shouldn’t feel any sort of guilt.
Boudoir is an experience that I think all women need to have. It allows us to get in tune with who we are. Women are beautiful. Boudoir gives that chance at redefinition and discovery of the self.
You are everything and more! Seek a new definition. Let this serve as a reminder that you are incredibly sexy, if not sexier than your former self.
There is such incredible beauty in transition, wisdom, and caregiving. You have truly only grown into a new self- let’s celebrate her.